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Lessons Learned for Children of Survivors
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Paula David, MSW, Coordinator, Holocaust Resource Project, Baycrest Centre

The following are some practical tips from adult children who are caring for their Survivor parents:
  • Know who you are in every part of your life. Know what you can live with and what will make you feel guilty so you don't have any regrets. Know how much time you can commit.
  • Expect less of yourself, and do as much as you reasonably can.
  • You can't make your parent better, so do what you can and know what decisions you can live with and what decisions you can't control.
  • Be organized ... be patient ... do the best you can.
  • Have the strength to deal with your parent and the awareness that she has to take care of herself as much as she is able to.
  • Take care of yourself.
  • Don't see asking for help as a failure.
  • Recognize that the Holocaust has had an impact on your family ... even if you are not clear on what it is. Then recognize that your family and your parents are much more than just "the Holocaust." Focus on creating quality time with your parent, even while that definition may be changing. Make the most of the time you have.